SIS MORENIKEJI OYALEKE.
Theme of the Year:
Our Year of New Heights (Lev. 26:13 & Phil. 3:13, 14)
Theme of the Month:
Strong Family:
Key to New Heights.
Topic: Healthy Marriage is Built on Determination
God designed marriage to be a relationship built on understanding, respect, honor and self-sacrifice. A good marriage is not an accident—it is the result of walking in the light of God’s Word. You cannot understand all about your spouse in one day. Not even in one year of your marriage. Marriage is a relationship of life time and so it requires taking time to adjust, tolerate, forgive, accept and making your best to be the best companion to your spouse.
Love is the highest form of maturity. It often requires a sacrificial gift. If love doesn't require some sort of sacrifice on your part, you probably don't love your spouse at all. If there is no sacrifice in your actions, you are most likely reacting to something nice your spouse did for you, or simply pretending to be kind to gain some control over him/her. Love is almost always undeserved by the person who receives it. Your decisions should always have your spouse's interests in mind. Even a mediocre marriage requires sacrifice. It is important to understand that true love gives of itself.
Sacrifice means you are not going to have your way all the time. This means both the husband and wife are called to love each other with unconditional love. There has to be sacrifice of selfish desires if a couple is going to enjoy a triumphant marriage.
Learning to lower your expectations will also go a long way to reduce how you get offended in your relationship. The key to happiness could be low expectations — at least, that is the lesson from a new equation that researchers used to predict how happy someone would be in the future. If you start off with low expectations you could end up pleasantly surprised and you become happy.
In a study, researchers found that it didn't matter so much whether things were going well. It mattered whether they were going better than expected. "It is often said that you will be happier if your expectations are lower,” Dr. Robb Rutledge, the senior research associate at University College London (UCL) who led the study, said in a statement. “We find that there is some truth to this: Lower expectations make it more likely that an outcome will exceed those expectations and have a positive impact on happiness.”
To have a good marriage requires making a decision to make your marriage work. Do not leave it for chance to decide. Your decision is the energy that will keep you going when things are not as expected. Your decision will drive you to seek godly counsel when chips are down and drive you to your knees in prayer to God who hears and answer prayers. God bless every home.
HOST
REV. JOSEPH LAMIDI
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